I wish my mother had just appointed one of us to be executer of her estate but instead she appointed both of us as co-executers. I will NEVER do this – I’m having more stress and headaches dealing with my sister’s arrogance and annoying behavior than I should have to. She is refusing to cooperate with anything the auctioneer says. He needs a key so that he can stop by mom’s house and start working on getting everything set up for the auction next Saturday (after Thanksgiving), but Cheri is insisting that she is not available until the weekend and the auctioneer is trying to find a way to get in sooner. I don’t understand why she can’t have him stop by her house one evening and pick it up. I would mail him mine if I thought it would get there soon enough! He is trying his best to work with her but I know I’m annoyed with her – I can’t imagine that he will want to EVER work with her again!
She has been dragging her feet for almost 2 years now. First she didn’t want to sell the place. I told her I couldn’t afford to keep paying the insurance and utilities indefinitely. Then she refused to help with any of the clean up. She lives 10 minutes away from mom’s house – I live 4 HOURS away! I finally got her convinced that we needed to move this thing and she has found every excuse to not cooperate with it. First she didn’t want to auction it but really, this house is in no condition to sell it on the market. Then she found all sorts of excuses about the auctioneer that SHE picked out. Now she’s trying to keep him out of the house so he can’t do his job. I’m just afraid that come next week she won’t want to accept the bid that we get on it.
She is expecting to get 50 – 60 K for a house that is barely worth 25! I could use all the energy, prayers, good wished, whatever you have to help get this house and its contents sold and be done with all of this. I’m to the point that I don’t even want to go to her house for Christmas – I’m just fed up with her.
I know you're probably just venting, but you could overnight your key, registered mail. It would be worth the cost just to get it done.
ReplyDeleteAlso, you can pull a rabbit out of your hat. Caring.com says "If none of these approaches work, consider going to the probate court for help. Some will act by imposing deadlines on the executors and in drastic cases, will remove an executor who is not performing the required legal duties." You can always threaten to take her to court over it, and have her removed. Depends on how much more you are willing to strain the relationship. Hope it resolves well!
I'm breathing now - yes I was venting and just a bit more. She did call me this morning to tell me that she is going to give the key to the auctioneer and he will be in the house all by himself - is that ok? I told her yes, I don't think there is anything in there that is that important that if he absconded with it, I would be upset... but really, it's his job and I think everything will be fine.
ReplyDeleteI reallize that she probably is just having a really hard time still dealing with mother's passing and I wish there was something I could do for her other than try to bite my tongue and sound reasonable when I'm on the phone with her. I feel like I have bent over backwards and my back is starting to ache! :)